If our emotions are the result of our thoughts and feelings, then how do we change them to get to new and better emotions?
"I've
been crying for two weeks straight." Jane told me during a class that I
was teaching on Releasing Emotions. Jane needed help and I needed a
demonstration volunteer. The scenario was a perfect match.
Conscious Thoughts and Feelings
"I
only dated him for 6 months but it was one of those very intense
relationships," Jane told the class. Since the break up she had been
unable to stop feeling the pain. But were the tears really all about
the loss of this relationship?
Her conscious focus was on her
pain over the relationship. That didn't take an Emotional Healer to
figure this one out. But as we learned more about Mr. Not-So-Wonderful,
we found that he had not been very nice to her and that he was an
excessive drinker, bordering on alcoholic. So what else was going on?
Subconscious Thoughts and Feelings
I
explained to the class that we all have Inside hurts and Outside hurts.
The Outside hurts are those that we can see. Those are the events that
happen to us. We experience the Outside hurts in relationship break
ups, loss of a job that we love, and thousands of other causes and
misfortunes.
But when we react out-of-proportion to the Outside
hurt it's the subconscious thoughts and feelings that are reacting to
the Inside, or suppressed, hurts. In Jane's case it was the
long-forgotten pain of loosing her father at an early age that was
amplifying the conscious pain of this latest relationship break up.
In
the Methods and Techniques sections we'll be reviewing several ways to
get information from the subconscious mind in a How To format. Here
we're just beginning to look at How and Why the subconscious mind
influences the emotions, thoughts and feelings.
In a short
demonstration I was able to find the pattern between Jane's last
boyfriend and her father. Once she saw that it was her Father that she
was really crying for and not her boyfriend, she immediately began to
feel relief. It even surprised us all when she stated that he wasn't
really all that great of a boyfriend to begin with!
Looking At The Problem
When
you and I look at someone's outside problems, as Emotional Healers and
facilitators, we need to gauge if the emotions are proportional to the
event. That's not always easy and it really is a subjective call, but
in most cases this gives us easy access to underlying subconscious
thoughts and feelings.
When we allow the person to become aware
of those underlying thinking patterns and emotions, she will begin the
shift her emotions towards the outside problem all on her own.
Moving to the Next Level
Jane's
thinking patterns aren't unique. Her story may have unique twists but
the process of finding the underlying emotions will be similar, or
sometimes identical, each time we begin to dig for answers.
Now
that I was aware of Jane's Inside problem, the pain of loosing her
alcoholic father at an early age, I then needed to shift to finding out
what emotions were needed to be released that caused her to react in
the way that she did.
I had found out that she had ended
several relationships in a similar manner. And many of the men in her
life were strikingly similar to her father, emotionally abusive,
alcoholics. So what caused her to repeat this same pattern in her
relationships?
Fortunately this same class experience also allows us to continue with Jane's situation as we begin to look at, Subconscious Behavior Patterns.
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do we begin healing emotions when we don't know what they are, or how
they got there? Sure the subconscious mind may hold all the answers,
but how do we get to them?
